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A million new best friends

I have been warned by my brothers that I'm not allowed to mention them - or their children - ever again in print.

They think I'm invading their privacy and misinterpreting their lives, although I think it's really to do with the fact that my older brother doesn't like us to mention the "f-word" (fuller figured).

Then my dad sent me a blog from a US website, from a writer who had the same allegations levelled against her - not by her family, but her readers, who complained that when her kids got old enough to understand that she had laid their lives bare for millions around the world, they wouldn't be too happy about it.

Telling your closest friend or family about the misadventures of your kids is expected, but as Cybergirl has pointed out, telling thousands of people about some of the things she would rather forget can be a case of child abuse.

And with the rise and rise of the internet, these little missives about her life are no longer confined to the printed page, but can be kept for eons, to be retrieved at a whim.

Not that she ever reads what I write, in a show of defiance that I have actually done it.

GameBoy and PlayStation couldn't yet care less about their exploits being open fodder from which I can try to draw inspiration.

And my husband says he's just glad that I chose to keep my own name when we got married so nobody would know who he is.

But I take heart in the fact I am only one in millions who put out into the universe the goings on in what can only be considered a relatively normal life.

Now that nearly everyone in the world is connected to each other by that great innovation of the World Wide Web, hearing about the minutiae of people's lives is very easy.

If you do a Google search on family blogs, 33,900,000 different sites are offered - everything from Green and Natural Mom blog to the Adventure Family blog.

A few months ago, a friend suggested I "visit" a parenting website chatline, just to find out what other mums talk about.

Although it took me a while to try and figure out how to follow the forums, as I "listened" I soon became so engrossed in what was happening that nearly three hours had gone.

It had gotten dark outside, my own kids were rolling around on the floor clutching their stomachs from the hunger pains because I hadn't ventured to the kitchen to make dinner, but I was hooked on being a voyeur into the lives of ordinary women - from mothers to grandmothers, single girls and even the kind that your mother once told you to stay away from.

It was like having a million best friends to ask about the most mundane things. One wanted to know how to deal with an insulting mother-in-law, another had just told her husband she no longer found him attractive, another needed to know how to get chocolate stains off the new lounge.

Then there were those who just wanted to let someone know their toddler had taken its first steps, that baby Emma had cut her first tooth, or that their adolescent daughter had forgotten how to articulate and was resorting to grunting answers, which it seems is common around the world.

No matter how trivial the query or insignificant the milestone, there was always someone there to offer advice or congratulations, just like in an old-fashioned neighbourhood where we could just nick next door to talk for a few minutes.

*Keeli is a South Coast journalist and mother trying to find a perfect life-work balance.

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